We can place blame on others for “robbing” us of our peace all we want. Truth is, your peace cannot be taken away. It has to be given. When God gives us true peace, it cannot be tampered with. We have it because we recognize the gift that has been given. Isaiah 26:3 says “You will keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on you, because he trusts you. John 16:33 says These things I have spoken to you, that in ME you have peace. In the world you will have tribulation; but be of good cheer, I have overcome the world.
When we find ourselves experiencing “weaknesses, insults, hardships, persecutions and calamities” we are not a peace. When we release those burdens over to God keeping our focus on HIS promises, we will filled with peace-know HE has it all under control.
When I see meme’s or quotes that talk about how “since certain people have left there’s more peace” Peace is not the absence of conflict, it is the ability to handle conflict by peaceful means. People tend to walk away from situations when it no longer serves its purpose. Be it good or bad. We place power in the absence of individuals when we have to have them to learn how to deal with conflict. Which is why certain situations resurface. If you’re facing issues in certain areas in life-you or the other person walking away will not solve that problem. Especially if the problem is you, masked by the presence of others.
I remember someone saying to me “I only act this way towards you” they said it as if I were to wear it as a badge of shame. Until God revealed to me why. The person was able to mask themselves in the presence of others. With me, I was able to see beyond the mask I was able to see how they truly were.
I speak with a lot of people regarding their relationships, situationships, ,friendships etc., and they all say the same thing. It’s not me, it’s them. They’re disturbing my peace. NO-it’s you. You’re disturbing your own peace by refusing to address the unhealed parts. Are you truly at peace? Is there something that is causing you to feel moved (in a negative way)by what someone has said or done? If so, you still have some healing to do. Your peace cannot find you, while your busying yourself giving it away to others.
#Godfirst #KnowPeace #DealHealnMoveForward #BeInPeace
It’s hard being a mother at times. We offend, defend, love, nurture, have our feelings hurt, we cook(or order take out) we clean(our hire a cleaning service) we work jobs that test our whole being, all so that we can support our families.
We have children who are not so nice at times, or who push you to the edge where you yourself, if honest-need a break. All while dealing with issues of our own. It seems almost impossible to deal with it all at times.. But God!
Mother’s Day is so much more than just a nationally or internationally known holiday. Today is the day where you can tell/show your mother(step or someone who filled in) how much you love them. It isn’t a day to bash who isn’t there. If they gave birth to you....they still did their part. If they couldn’t or felt they couldn’t love you and sent their gift as a present to someone else....Thank God, they did you a favor.
If you’re a dad who is fulfilling both the role of mom/dad. You’re blessed and will continue to be a blessing. Refrain from bashing who left, accept it and show your child a different way to love and handle responsibilities. But do not spend time on bad mouthing the one who chose to leave. Their purpose may have been to deliver what is supposed to stay.
We focus on the wrong things at times. Mother's Day is about showing the woman or man who go beyond themselves even when it’s HARD or too much at times......Just how much they mean to you! Don’t blow it by calling out the flaws of the one who isn’t there.
To the mother estranged from her child(ren), stop beating yourself up. Find a way to develop a relationship with your child(ren) now. Even if, it's with your grandchildren. You will not be able to place a time frame on reconciliation, however; changed behavior will be your answer. Forgive your self, instead of waiting for your child(ren) to forgive you. Work on you so that if/when reconciliation occurs-you're ready for it. For the child(ren) who believe hate is the answer or harboring un-forgiveness in their hearts is the answer, think again. Talking about the past will help, but understand that the answers of which you seek-may not make sense to you...Find peace in knowing that at least their trying. Show grace on both sides.
Happy Mother’s Day to ALL who’ve stepped into this role that has its ups and downs!
#Godfirst #ToBeAMother #RewardingandTiresomeAtTimes
Over the past few weeks I’ve observed behavior patterns of others, whether it’s family, friends, co-workers and I wonder what it will take for some of them to get the proper help needed to improve the quality of life for themselves and others around them. It saddens me that there’s hundreds/millions of people who remain undiagnosed with mental illness due to being afraid of how they’ll be perceived and not willing to be held accountable for themselves. It’s even worse when family/friends refuse to step up out of fear of losing a friend because of it. Well, I’m the friend who will risk losing you-but will tell you that you need help and will work hard to ensure you get it.
I’m an advocate for getting the proper help needed to help you live a life that’s worth living. I’m not big on “hiding” how I feel or what I go through. Mental health has plagued my family for years. Some have been diagnosed many have not-However, If I knew back then, what I know now…………. But God!
Personally-I have family who suffer with a mental illness(diagnoses range from bi-polar, schizophrenia, depression, etc.). So, for me, it’s real and I know first-hand the fight, the struggle, the emotional turmoil that it has on our family. I know the emotional roller coaster that it causes especially when one or the other refuses to take their medication because they believe they can “beat it” on their own.
I advocate because a huge part of me understands where the emotional strain comes from. What they may have endured, and haven’t let go of, a fear of not being accepted socially-unable to truly be their authentic selves out of fear of how they may be perceived-by this world and the people in it.
Because mental health can appear in many different forms; it often goes undiagnosed. Sometimes symptoms of a mental health disorder appear as physical problems, such as stomach pain, back pain, headache, or other unexplained aches and pains, etc.
Signs and symptoms of mental illness can vary, depending on the disorder, circumstances and other factors. Mental illness symptoms can affect emotions, thoughts and behaviors.
Examples of signs and symptoms include:
It’s truly time that we acknowledge all past hurts, fears, things that keep us in bondage. No matter how old the pain/hurt is…it must be brought to the surface and dealt with accordingly.
And be reminded that, when you deal with your hurt-you cannot project how you feel onto someone else. Meaning, No one projects better or more frequently than a narcissist. They've practiced, honed and refined projection to a fine art. Whatever they're up to, by some mental “abracadabra,” suddenly they're innocent and you're the one up to no-good.
Help is available, should you be willing to admit and commit to getting it.
#Godfirst #MentalHealthAdvocate #CertifiedLifeCoach #NewAdventureSameJourney
A couple of years ago, I lost someone who was very important/special to me. Grief has a way of overtaking you in waves. I miss my mom like you wouldn’t believe. Although she didn’t give birth to me, she was my mom. I miss her voice, her laugh and my God her smile. It had the ability to light up an entire room. She was the sweetest most accepting person I’ve ever met….Not don’t get It messed up-she would put you in your place QUICK, in a loving way of course. But you knew she meant business. She taught me a lot. She taught me the importance of never giving up on yourself or your dreams.
A couple of nights ago, I had a dream about her. When I tell you my heart was so happy to see her. In the dream it was a lot going on, but there was one thing that stood out. It was the escalator and the staircase.
In the dream, mom was purchasing an item. The bag looked to be heavy. I immediately said “mom, I’ll take the bag” she smiled and said OK, but take the stairs. I was confused as to why she said that, since it would’ve been easier to take the escalator.
Since that day, I’ve been thinking about the significance of the dream-but today…Today, God revealed why.
The escalator is remotely controlled. It has the ability to allow the passenger to ride without work. A lot of people in life, will choose to take the escalator, even walking while riding believing they’ll end up where they want to be faster. But what happens when it breaks down? However; the stair case is underappreciated. It requires physical strength to endure the steps to get you to where you need………at the appointed time. Sure, it may seem like it requires more work-and in hindsight, it will. But it’s necessary for greatness and endurance.
We shouldn’t be looking to take the escalator in life. We should be seeking out the stairs to build the endurance thus arriving to our destination at the appointed time. Arriving too early can cause gridlock(we can see the blessing but we’re not ready for it).
Let me tell you something. I had the best praise break here in my glass office just now. I’m grateful that God used my mom, to teach this lesson. For me, it came at the right time. I was missing her and I needed to be in a place to receive this blessing.
Gods doing a new thing, I don’t want to miss my number being called because I’m rushing for the escalator. All things will happen in decency and in order. DO NOT try and rush your season, checking to see if you’re too late or perhaps you’ve arrived too early. Your blessing will find you, when God needs it too. Tend to your own garden, instead of watching the harvest of others. Message received, loud and clear!
We’re in a season of restoration. Meaning, EVERYTHING that we thought we lost, will be given back, renewed-better than ever. Though it may not be in the same package we once received it in. Any mistakes we’ve made, will be corrected and forgiven. Anyone who sought to make us feel less than, as if we are continual failures-Bringing up, shedding light to our past transgressions while hiding their hands…Will be exposed. We will not have to lift a finger. The key-we must keep our eyes on God and ACTIVATE our faith. We must obey his every command. It will be uncomfortable, but we will be comforted by our Holy comforter. Keep your eyes fixed on God. Remember that if we cheat, we will never win. We must live a life that is pleasing. Showing and giving love to all we come in contact with. Even IF it is tough love. As always, continue to keep Godfirst on this New Adventure Same Journey
How many times have you used this phrase? How many times has someone said it to you? Depending on the situation, how did it make you feel? Of course, when we’re saying it, it doesn’t have an effect on the one delivering, but what about the one receiving it?
People tend to use “It’s about time” for things like: I’ve been waiting for over an hour OR I’m getting married(depending on how long you’ve been dating a specific person or your age) or if you’ve been without money/job and you are hired by a company or if you’re settlement cashes in. We typically say “Well it’s about time.
Personally, I’ve used this phrase a ton. But today, God said to me to be wise when I speak. Now, if you know me, you know I had to say “Why you say that” and instantly started recalling times when I’ve used this phrase. On my journey to becoming a better me, I’m often confronted with past behaviors to point out growth and areas that I still need to be delivered in/from. This is one of them. Saying things like “it’s about time” could cause the person who has been waiting for God to show up, to stop waiting. This phrase, could potentially cause you to lose your witness.
Think of it this way. Cindy, has been straddling the fence with becoming a believer. She’s been enduring a lot of hardships and you’ve been speaking to her about the “Goodness of God” and how HE’s always on time. Well, Cindy is now out of work and is in need of help-financially. You allow Cindy to borrow money to cover her expenses, not knowing when or if you would ever receive it back. It’s been months and Cindy is still out of work and still is in very much need of help-financially and spiritually. Finally, Cindy goes back to work and receives her first check where she’s able to pay you back…..one year later. She’s smiling, grateful that God has blessed her with you, the new job and is ready to accept her walk/calling-but still just a little apprehensive. The two of you meet, she’s happy-still smiling and extends the money she borrowed from you. You take it and say “It’s about time”(Whether you meant it or not) imagine how Cindy must feel after you've said this to her? Her smile turns into a puzzled look with a hint of nervousness. You tell her you’re just joking, but to her, she now feels a little thrown off. She begins replaying previous conversations about the “Goodness of God” and how she needed to trust that better days were ahead. She becomes slightly withdrawn. Deep in thought wanting to know “why”-why you of all people, would say that to her, knowing her situation ……And where you are in your journey/walk with Christ. Why-well, your comment of “it’s about time” has caused you to lose your witness. Psalm 119:105 says Your word is a lamp to my feet and a light to my path. You’ve told Cindy that you must trust God, that HE will bring you out. Providing a lamp to her feet to do so, but you turn out her light, with one simple yet powerful phrase…”It’s about time”. Blessed are we when we trust in his word against all contradictions. Knowing that, you contradicted what HE has said and done for the believer whose still struggling-by again, using one simple yet powerful phrase.
Now, you can say “you’re looking too deep into this” but am I really? I challenge you to think back to a time where you were on the receiving end of that phrase. How did it really make you feel? We tend to say that phrase when we’re annoyed with an action that should have happened sooner than what it did.
God has an amazing way of reminding us and revealing amazing revelations on our journey. HE reveals it when HE believes we are ready to receive it. And will remind you of just how much you have to lose by not heeding to it.
#Godfirst #NewAdventureSAMEJourney #MyTimeWithGod
Hey listen. IF we’re honest, we’ve all gotten caught up in checking the harvest looking for the blessings of others, instead of focusing on our own.
We tend to become “sour” by asking God “when will it be my turn” well, each time that happens, we delay what HE has in store. Perhaps “waiting” with a heart of expectation is what’s needed for you in this season.
We cannot level up by trying to count the blessings of everyone else. We can however show excitement and happiness toward them while we graciously wait our turn.
Imagine this. You’re in someone else's garden checking to see if their harvest is budding. While you're concerning yourself with their blessings, yours is left unattended. You run back to yours hoping to receive a harvest like your fellow neighbor, and you FAIL to put down your seeds correctly. You scatter the seeds about, but where and in what? Have you planted them in good fertile soil, are your seeds good? Because what you plant is as important as where you plant them. OR Are you planting them in shallow ground amongst the thorns?
Don't worry about the harvest of others. We don't know when, where or how they planted their seeds...You're only focusing on the end result and not the process.
The Parable of Matthew 13 talks about the farmer scattering seeds. Verses 19-23 says The seed that fell on the footpath represents those who hear the message about the Kingdom and don’t understand it. Then the evil one comes and snatches away the seed that was planted in their hearts.20 The seed on the rocky soil represents those who hear the message and immediately receive it with joy. 21 But since they don’t have deep roots, they don’t last long. They fall away as soon as they have problems or are persecuted for believing God’s word. 22 The seed that fell among the thorns represents those who hear God’s word, but all too quickly the message is crowded out by the worries of this life and the lure of wealth, so no fruit is produced. 23 The seed that fell on good soil represents those who truly hear and understand God’s word and produce a harvest of thirty, sixty, or even a hundred times as much as had been planted!”
Stop worrying about what others have. Focus on your garden, ensuring that the seeds you've planted fell on good soil, representing those who truly heed and understand God's word and produces a harvest of thirty, sixty or even a hundred times as much had been planted!
#Godfirst #NewAdventureSameJourney #GoodSeeds #GoodSoil #Matthew13
Being a mother to a child that suffers from major depression and social disorder isn’t easy. Especially one who has attempted suicide. When I’m at work, she sends me messages throughout the day that honestly, it distracts me, places me on edge, because I never know what will come from her.
To be honest, I enjoy going to a job, that I hate only because I get to breathe little sigh of relief, for a little while. I keep my phone near me always, and when it rings or vibrates, I hold my breath. I never know what type of call or message I’ll receive. When I recognize that it’s her, I close my eyes and my heart skips a beat. It’s hard. I feel like I’m on the roller coaster with her and the only way I can leave, is if I leave her behind. I want to get off, but then I feel that I’m abandoning her. I feel like for her to breathe, I must deprive myself of oxygen.
I want to get off the roller coaster. Am I selfish? To most, perhaps I am. But what you don’t know is …. I have other children who need me too. If I’m spending most of my time with her, the others feel the effects of it. I sometimes barely have enough energy for me…her, let alone the rest of them. I want to get off the roller coaster.
I coast most days. I put on an act just, so I can get through the day. Truth is, by the time I hit my home. I sit in my driveway, for about 5-10 minutes, just to regroup. I enter my home and immediately, I am faced with having to do my final show of the day….Engaging a child who barely wants to engage, other children who want to do fun stuff and a husband who can immediately sense that his wife wants an escape- so he goes above and beyond to get me anything I need/want just to see me smile, while I’m trying HARD to make our child smile.
I want to get off the roller coaster. See, for me…. I suffer from anxiety and I work hard to keep that demon at bay. I read only positive affirmations, I pray, daily, multiple times throughout. I’m successful most of the time… But there are days where I……. I want to escape. I want to pull the covers over my head and simply, escape.
I want to get off the roller coaster. But each time, I try…I think about what I’m leaving behind… I want to get off the roller coaster……But each time I try, I can feel a strong tug and I immediately feel myself weakening… I want to get off the roller coaster……But each time I try, I feel like a monster for wanting a break from this harsh reality… I want to get off the roller coaster, but each time I try… I feel cold as if life is literally leaving my body… I want to get off the roller coaster, I ask God why I am faced with this situation. Why am I struggling in this way, what could I possibly be teaching other people if I’m feeling this way about my own child.
I want to get off the roller coaster, but each time I try… I feel cold as if life is literally leaving my body. I want to get off the roller coaster…...But if I do... I’ll leave my whole heart behind.
A man bound by the hands and feet, cannot free himself. He must be helped by a person that is unbound. The bound cannot help the bound; the rescuer must be liberated. ~Author Unknown
If you want to associate this to scripture…..Ecclesiastes 4:9-11 Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down,
one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up. Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone?
It’s OK to ask for help. It’s OK to help. Though we are not meant to be alone, we are also not meant to be around people who have no desire to be free. The inability to release is like being bound by the hands and feet….You cannot free yourself. It WILL require for you to TRUST God and allow HIM to bring who/what you need on this journey. I prayed and asked God to give me the strength to follow the plan HE has for my life. To not become distracted when people choose to look at my past instead of my present. The reality is I cannot change my past and to be honest, I wouldn’t anyway. My story…..The one told by me and not by those who added words to it, will make you a believer…HE did it for me and HE’ll do the same for you… but YOU have to release it all to HIM. The Good, The Bad and The Ugly. #Godfirst #Release #NewAdventureSameJourney
God reminded me this morning of my Praise. 4 weeks ago, my husband I were faced with a horrible situation……The end result could’ve been deadly for one of our children, BUT GOD! The way HE stepped in and calmed those raging waters…..The way HE asked of me to go about my days as normal, so that HE could work. The Strength that I never knew I had…..I found in HIM…..The way HE allowed me to release it ALL unto HIM… The way HE allowed me to RELEASE that control that I thought I had…..HE allowed me to see that HE is in total control…The way HE allowed HIS strong soldier to cry for HELP and sent the APPOINTED people to rally around me to LIFT me up in MY time of despair….The Way HE instructed me to only inform CERTAIN people to re-establish the connection that I had put down, when HE needed ME to PICK IT UP….HE reminded me this morning that WE could’ve been grieving parents right now, either making burial arrangements or feeling the effects of having just laying one of our children to rest. I say that to say, we serve a mighty God! And if you ever wonder why I’m so “ON Jesus” I have SEVERAL REASONS. As I mentioned previously, I have a story that if you’ll allow ME to tell it, instead of listening to the people who desire to tarnish my name…..IT WILL make you a BELIEVER of God!
Oh-Don’t inbox me asking what happened…Ask ME WHY I DON’T LOOK LIKE WHAT WE JUST WENT THROUGH! I’ll tell you the full story about that, if YOU are ready!
#Godfirst #EverywhereIGO #ItakeMyJesus #WithME #GloryToGod #HeFoundMEWorthy #NewadventureSAMEJourney # everytime you look up you see me winning
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