The purpose and intent (of a true leader) shall be to elevate mankind’s faith, and to fill the world with justice!
After having the most delightful conversation today, I found myself thinking about this very thing. The purpose and intent of a true leader. A true leader, should provide the necessary tools for their following, to make the best possible decision not only for themselves-but for all parties involved. Has a passion to help inspire others, has the mind, will and desire(drive) to get things done(in an orderly fashion) is dedicated to growing/mentoring others. They should seek to lift and not tear down. They should show you the right way, instead of ridiculing you for doing the task incorrectly. We have all been faced with difficult people in leadership roles. Personally, I had the unfortunate/fortune of dealing with several. What is an unfortunate/fortunate? Well, at the time that I endured that rough patch, I felt like I had the worst luck ever when it came to people whom I worked for. The very first was back in 2005, the owners of my very first real estate gig were horrible(so I thought)-My very first day, I was yelled at for not knowing how to answer the phone(she didn’t tell me what I needed to say) when asked, she told me to wait for my new co-worker to train me. LOL As time went on, I grasped the industry pretty quickly and soon, was hired on permanently and surpassed the original staff. The owners actually liked me a great deal, though they never told me, personally-they began to show it later.
Fast forward, in 2009, it was time to move on. On April 19th, I started my second real estate position (makes less money than before)with another company. The office setting was relaxed (perhaps too relaxed) but could be stressful. I worked long hours, would receive bonuses, but I wasn’t fulfilled. The leadership, well, let’s just say-believed that money would bring about happiness. WRONG. The 3rd and present position-which I feel has been the hardest, has taught me a test of faith, strength and true endurance. When I first came on board, I was paired with who I though was Satan himself. This lady was so scattered brained, psychotic and just a true demon(except she had no idea how the enemy was using her) she did and said things to people that were just horrible. Always believed that someone was jealous of her, little did she know-folks actually felt sorry for her. Her presence alone, proved her to be one of the loneliest/ misguided people I have ever encountered. She was so unhappy and as a result made everyone else unhappy(at least she tried too)She lead as she lived-which was disastrous. She lived as if she was owed/entitled to things and it would prove to be very hard to move ahead with a leader who didn’t know how to lead.
The unfortunate/fortunate is that I HAD to endure those storms. It was a part of my destiny to meet those people to help to shape who I am today. I realized that “ If the head isn’t right, the body will not be right” As it relates to you and/or me. If the head(leader)isn’t performing and/or conducting themselves in a manner that we can learn from, the body(workers, students, government, police) will not respond in the manner of which we are supposed to respond in. There’s a scripture that reads “My brethren, be not many masters, knowing that we shall receive the greater condemnation. We are all not called to be teachers/leaders. There’s a lot of people who have not been called to teach and/or lead. When we forget the real reason or in most cases begin to operate as if we are in control we really lose it. How? We lose control by not going to our Heavenly father for counsel. We lose control by thinking that we should or can allow our emotions to lead us. The greatest leader, needs encouraging, guidance and a vision of purpose. The greatest leader has to be teachable. One cannot assume the responsibility and believe they know it all. Times are ever changing and we all stand in the need of fine tuning.
My question for you is this: If you are a leader, where do you seek your directive from? Who is your source of help? If you are currently in the following role, where does your head seek his/her leadership from? How many of you are following simply because you’ve been told that you belong in the back when you should really be at the front, leading? And how many are leading when you should be in the back?
There is a time and place for everything, be careful about moving simply because you want to be seen…. Focus more on “while we look not at the things which are seen, but at the things which are not seen: for the things which are seen are temporal; but the things which are not seen are eternal.
#Godfirst #Believer #NewAdventureSAMEjourney #Making2016Epic
Being in commercial real estate has taught me a lot. In my quiet time with my Heavenly Father, HE told me one day why HE placed me in this field. HE said, Devita, in your current bldg., what have you noticed. I said it’s under construction. He said what else, what are they doing? I said, they are removing things and bringing in new things. HE said, what is the one thing they aren’t touching? I said the foundation? HE replied, yes. Devita. If you notice-you never put new things together with old things. You have to remove the old first, and then put new things in. If not, you’ll end up with a mess. If you look up Foundation, it means an underlying basis or principle for something. Our foundation is our root. No matter what you do, you cannot change anything unless you get to the root of the problem. The bldg. that I am currently is, in an historic feature here in DC, my company bought it because it is a wonderful sturdy bldg., yes, it requires work but the FOUNDATION is stable. See, God has given us our foundation (our bodies) and every so often during the seasons, HE will instruct us on what to do, to build on our foundation. HE will use different life events to cultivate us, shape us, teach us, to be who HE desires for us to be. It requires purging/releasing, it’s ALL necessary in order fulfilling the purpose that we ALL have. When we purge/release its ridding ourselves of the things that are no longer necessary on this journey-It could be people, habits, mindset etc. Once we are fully purged, God will begin to pour new wine (see scripture above) into new bottles so that the lessons will be preserved. God has a plan for me, and HE definitely has one for YOU! This season, is to release/purge the old things that are hurting, hindering and exhausting you. HE is ready to give you more. Are you ready?
Heavenly Father, I am grateful for this day. I thank you for my foundation; help me Father-to build on it. Help me, to release/purge what is not longer necessary on this journey, so that I may put new wine into new bottles. I am ready Father; I can’t do this with you. Empty me of ME and fill me up with YOU. Bind up anything that isn’t of you, cast it out into the sea-never to be seen or heard from again. Help me to be truthful with myself in what I need to change, align me with more processed me and woman who will help me grow on this journey. In Jesus Name. Amen.
I posted this pic a while back and decided to “repost” I sent out a mass text to my family and some friends regarding my non-profit endeavor. I shared in great detail, how important this was\is to me and how it required A LOT of my time and effort to create develop this non-profit. I knew that once I started, I couldn’t stop. Certain areas of my life (school, some friends/family had to take a back seat) suffered lack while I’ve been building my brand. I had to learn that what I’m doing has taken precedence over everything else. If I want to make a difference, within my community with young people/parents, help parents raise awareness to DIPG all while incorporating the gift of cooking to charity organizations, I knew that sacrifices would need to be made. What has kept me going is this scripture Job 42:10-After Job had prayed for his friends, the Lord restored his fortunes and gave him twice as much as he needed before” It’s because of this scripture, that has made me realize that regardless of what I think I’ve lost, God will restore it all.
I expressed my plan to family and friends and I was given strong discernment to see who would be sitting in my front row genuinely and who was sitting in my front row that purchased nose bleed seats. Needless to say, I‘ve seen A LOT. Am I upset? NO! Am I going to stop or send our reminders? NO! See, from experience-I’ve received support from people whom I’ve known for such a short period of time, more than family and friends that I’ve known for ages- Who has encouraged, pushed, motivated, counseled and not only reviewed my paper work, but gave me advice based on their experience.
The purpose of this post isn’t to bash or bad mouth anyone, it is to show the next person who may be getting ready to step out on faith and make moves-that no matter what, if what your doing is for the Glory of God, trust me-HE will send you your supporters-it may not be in the form of a familiar face, but it will be support no less! #believer #newadventureSAMEjourney
I’m careful that when I speak-I use words that will speak life, that will glorify God and teach HIS word to all that will listen. I pray daily that God will use me -whether it’s to encourage, strengthen build or to just be used as HIS vessel. With that said, I try to be as transparent as I possibly can. There’s no way for me to make this stuff up, It’s truly a blessing for me to be able to be used in that capacity. Today, like many days-I woke up with a cheerful heart, one filled with gratitude and thanksgiving. Since, making the decision to give my life to the God, I’ve been challenged in every way imaginable. I’ve been lied on, falsely accused, betrayed, cursed out, mocked the list goes on. Initially, it would bother me, however; it was/is necessary. God blessed me with some pretty amazing people, my husband being the most important one. When I get off course, or I tend to take things personally, he without skipping a beat-reminds me that this isn’t about me per-say, but for the will that God has for my life. He(husband) reminds me daily, that I am to do my part. And that whatever man believes about me 1) isn’t true and 2)who cares(Bless him, he’s so blunt) He reminded me on Friday, that ppl are trying to figure out what will make me tick at this point in my life(he knows that I was once a hell raiser). He said, you keep thinking that it doesn’t bother folks when they do things to purposely try to make you mad, and how you show no reaction/emotion to any of it. He told me that he was extremely proud of the woman that I’ve become in Christ. Yesterday, in Church as we listened to our pastor- he said that it doesn’t matter that the snake(how befitting since I have always been scared of snakes) bit you, what matters is that the poisonous venom wasn’t allowed to penetrate you. My husband grabbed me in Church and said-See, here’s your confirmation. When I tell you last week, was the absolute MOST.. JESUS. Those closest to me, knew all about it-some didn’t find out until after it was over. Each time, I thought if I just “go off” maybe folks would leave me alone... God quickly reminded me that your snapping/going off isn’t necessary. HE told me that HE needed me to go through, for HIM. HE told me the end is now, your beginning can’t start without it. HE reminded me of the following scriptures. Instead of your shame you will receive a double portion, and instead of disgrace you will rejoice in your inheritance. And so you will inherit a double portion in your land, and everlasting joy will be yours. Isaiah 61:7 Return to your fortress, you prisoners of hope; even now I announce that I will restore twice as much to you. Zechariah 9:12 After Job had prayed for his friends, the LORD restored his fortunes and gave him twice as much as he had before. Job 42:10. HE reminds me daily that I must confess and release ALL to HIM. Everything that I endure is designed to make me a truly powerful woman in HIM. It is purposed for my calling/the vision that HE has for my life. Before I can be elevated to the next adventure within this journey, I have to learn each lesson, even if it’s one from my past. As I go through, I’ve decided to grow in the process. Understanding and accepting it all, including my part in it. I believe that good measure is being pressed down, shaken together and ready to be poured into me as I move forward without looking back. This is why I am a #BELIEVER. I choose to think outside of the box and understand that EVERYTHING happens for a reason with the intent to fulfill a purpose. #FHL #newadventureSAMEjourney #iHss #YPMM #takefromthis #asyouseefit #ifIcanreacheone #itsallworthit #growth #Newwine #processedpeople #mymentor #mysistersam #myhusband
For a while now, I've been sitting back observing behavior patterns, and while observing I saw how ppl take kindness as a weakness and silence as distance. When in reality, I've been finding little pieces that allowed me to put the big puzzle together. I've observed that there are still people in my life that need to removed due to being a wolf in Sheep's clothing. You've been disguising yourself as friend/family when your actions have been telling me everything I need to know, which is different from what you've been showing me.
My mentor shared with me something that I've been applying to my life. Every situation requires/deserves a separate response from your last. You cannot handle everything the same way. At the end of each lesson, you should be able to grow in your area of weakness. Not to mention experience being your greatest teacher.
I've noticed how folks will take strained relationships and use them as an advantage. I've noticed how longevity has been measured at a higher regard over loyalty and honesty. I've noticed how your overall perspective is measured by what others think. I notice how you believe you have the gift of gab, when its really you believing that persuasion is better than being humble/honest.
I notice how you keep seeing the same situation in your life-often reversing the roles of who is currently close to because you fail to learn the lesson.
Instead of stooping to your level of ignorance/immaturity, I'm going to pray for you. My Heavenly Father has shown/taught me that you cannot fight hate with hate, nor can you fight ignorance with ignorance. I pray that you're released from that negative/unhealthy mindset that you've grown accustomed to, that you seek relationships that strengthen, edify and build-with truth and not lies. I pray that you overcome your needy spirit with a more humble one. I pray that you become a better steward over your household, building and not tearing it down. That you seek to add and not divide. I pray that you seek to be better and not bitter. That you know when the enemy is using you and when he/she is sitting on your couch/eating at your table. I pray that you cease believing that numbers don't lie. Doesn't matter the amount of years that you've known a person, what truly matters is how often they are there for you w/o conditions. I pray that you see how growth is truly measured by your ability to see your hand/involvement in relationships that have been ended,mainly this one. I'm on a mission and unfortunately when your on a mission, you have to be careful to only pack the necessities, ensuring that you're not weighed down.
I believe that EVERYTHING happens for a reason, with the intent to fulfill a purpose!
I am a #Believer This is a #newadventureSAMEjourney #FHL #iHss #YPMM
I’ve been under the weather all week. I had to spend a day in the hospital,
and then visit my doctor for follow up visits. During this time, I’ve been
extremely quiet, only communicating with the few that know of my situation. My
mentor, who is AWESOME has been checking on me and giving me words of
encouragement (I just LOVE her) in the mist of her own daily life happenings,
she carved out time for me and I sincerely appreciate her for it. My sisters as
always have been checking in and remind me that although I am superwoman, even
the heroes need a break at some point. If you know me, you know it is
definitely hard for me to keep still and to not have my hand in something. My
mama (my first love) when I told her I had to go to the hospital( I didn’t tell
her right away, she worries way to much), she immediately told me. “See Vita,
you need to sit down somewhere” every time someone has something going on, you
don’t have to be involved. I know that is your spirit and personality, but God
needs you to be still. My mama was/is always right God definitely needed me
to be still in this moment. Last weekend, my brother bear said to me. Sissy,
why do you listen to respond? My little sissy said out of the blue on our
chat,”Ya’ll talk too much” Now, I’ll admit, I was a little in my feelings,
because I am the oldest sister and who is she to tell me that when she talks
just as much as I do. LOL but I digress. Everything that has been said, was/is
necessary for what I am about to reveal to you. See, I’ve been suffering
silently, not really expressing myself and letting people know just how I really
and truly feel. Listening to respond has been my thing for a while now, when it
should have been me listening to learn. Since I’ve been ill, God has ordered me
to be silent. On Sunday, I spent the day with some of my beautiful God
appointed family. We were blessed to find each other later in life (they aren’t
blood, but the bond we have is deeper. It was/is appointed by God) While
spending time with them, I realized that they give me a feeling that I’ve never
felt before, which is genuine pure love. While there, my Goddaughter laid in
silence, only crying when she wanted something to eat and when she needed to be
changed. Many of you have heard me express how much this little girl means to
me. She has already been anointed and is indeed a special little girl. She is
a week old and already has begun her work that she has been assigned to do. I
noticed how she would open her eyes and carefully studied (in silence) everyone
one that held her. When she felt that she needed a break from being held or if
you held her in a way where she was/is uncomfortable she would let out a little
cry to tell you know she felt. Once she did that you either had an option of
putting her down, or shifting her to make things comfortable for both you and
her. I of course chose to shift her to make her comfortable. In doing that,
God began to speak. HE said, “no one will know how you feel if you don’t do/say
something to tell them.” The next morning, I woke up in an unusual amount of
pain. I started to ignore how I felt and get myself ready to head to work when
God said. “No” not to day. Today, I need you to feel how you are feeling and
deal with it. I emailed my senior manager and informed him that I wouldn’t be
in. As the day progressed the pain grew more intense and I text my husband
letting him know I needed to go to the hospital. His response was. I’m on my
way. When he arrived to our home, he came in and helped me get dressed and took
me to the hospital. When we arrived, he took me in, parked and came in
afterward. When he came in, I heard him tell the nurse that he was looking for
his wife, Devita Parke. I heard him and said, I’m right here, do I look that
different? He said, yes babe you really do. While waiting, he had a look of
concern on his face( my husband is definitely a reserved/calm dude) while in the
back the doctors examined me and told me that I definitely needed to rest and to
really take it easy for the next few days. As I’m in the back I chatted with my
sisters who immediately went into big sister mode(I AM THE OLDEST) my medium
sister Thundercat) told me that I need to listen to the doctor and stop trying
to negotiate my diagnosis( she knows me so well). For the first time, I did
exactly what the doctor told me to do. I went home, and allowed my family to
care for me. I didn’t/haven’t lifted a finger all week. Once I got home, God
began talking. He said to me “ Devita, do you know this is happening to you.
If you’ve noticed, each time you do more than what I intend for you at the
moment, I have to take you down to lift you back up. I needed to expose you of
you, so that I can take you to the next level. I need you to be healed of it
all, but with that come exposure. The more we cover up how we feel, the more we
slow/stop the healing process. Take it all off and bare your soul to me. The
chains are being broken off of the family that I have stored up for you.
Blessings with your name on it are waiting to be released, but you must first be
exposed to greatness! Stop covering up my greatness with falsified
feelings/emotions. The lies that were told you about it not being OK to cry
when you’re hurt are being released from your memory. If you are unhappy my
child, it’s OK to say it. Happiness cannot find you if you refuse to expose
yourself. The reality that you created for yourself is a blanket that is used
to keep you comfortable. Your truth can only be revealed once you desire to
feel the uncomfortable. We must face whatever is causing the discomfort; then
and only then can we be delivered. The fear is causing us to feel comfortable
with your self-made reality. I did not give you the spirit of fear! HE spoke
about my recent betrayal from a family member, HE said, Why should you feel
betrayed when I (your heavenly father) was betrayed and spoke life into it??
Peter denied me, Judas betrayed me and yet I loved them even more. It has to
happen. Expect the bad as well as the good. It is all designed to bring you
closer to me.
Yesterday, at my doctor’s office I was a bit apprehensive about going(since
he has blessed in his practice he now has 3 locations and hired more doctors) I
am so used to seeing my favorite doctor only that I texted him asking if he
would be in his greenbelt location. LOL I know, too much when I arrived I
already had it in my head that I wouldn’t like the experience since he wouldn’t
be there. Then God spoke again saying, I lead you to Dr. S, who actually
trained Dr. M, surely you can BELIEVE that this the same for who you will be
seeing today. My spirit definitely received it and instantly relaxed. When she
came into the room, she had the most gently and soft spirit I had ever come into
contact with. I could definitely tell that she had learned from the best. I
text my doctor and told him that she was awesome and he was happy to hear
(although already knew). One thing she said to me and I knew it was God was.
Don’t suffer in silence, if you feel pain, if you have a question don’t be
afraid to tell me or ask a question. I know most will read this and say well
that is what she was supposed to say… yes, she was, however, I KNOW I was
supposed to be there to HEAR her say it!
Now let me tell you, while HE was speaking. I was definitely listening and
taking it all in. I know this post is long, but I believe that it may hold
someone’s salvation. It helped me a great deal.
Everything happens for a
reason with the INTENT to fulfill a purpose! I am definitely learning this
I AM a #believer THIS
IS a #newadventureSAMEjourney #faithhopelove
When evening had come, He sat down with the twelve. Now as they were eating, He said, “Assuredly, I say to you, one of you will betray Me.” And they were exceedingly sorrowful, and each of them began to say to Him, “Lord, is it I? ”He answered and said, “He who dipped his hand with Me in
the dish will betray Me. The Son of Man indeed goes just as it is written of Him, but woe to that man by whom the Son of Man is betrayed! It would have been good for that man if he had not
been born. ”Then Judas, who was betraying Him, answered and said, “Rabbi, is it I? “He said to him, “You have said it.” (Matthew 26:17-30)
This scripture is SO powerful to me. Here of late, God has been showing people to me that are
jealous, envious and those who just want information not really caring about me at all. My mind has been wondering why, but my heart feels different. I don’t dislike/hate anyone because of it-my journey hasn’t been an easy one(and I honestly didn’t expect it to be) but I still Praise God
for what HE’s doing. I choose to Step Aside and let God handle every single one of my battles. I try my hardest to encourage, edify, strengthen and build each person that I come in contact with. I don’t pretend to be more than what I am, however; I do aspire to be better. I will NOT
compromise Devita, anymore. If you want a lie, I’m not the one to talk too. I will not say things to get you to like me, or to be popular. I know that with this journey, there will be a lot of ppl
who will pretend to love/care about me-but in the blink of an eye will betray me
when I don’t do what they expect me to do. I’m OK with it, it’s not about
Everything happens for a reason, with the intent to fulfill a purpose! Have a GREAT day on purpose!
#believer #newadventureSAMEjourney #FaithHopeLove
I've fallen off a little bit with updating my daily inspiration, blog and classwork etc., partly
because i've been working on my book and just focusing more on my family. Re-establishing and fostering better relationships, with my husband, children,God appointed children as well as my nieces and nephews. I've been noticing that this is the season that is necessary for me to be in.Early this morning at 2:16, God woke me up and spoke these words to me. "Less of you, more of me". I thought to myself, have I been neglecting God? Have I been consumed with life, that I've been neglecting my quiet time? I pray(maybe not a lot of words, but I do pray) I worship and definitely
preach/teach HIS word to all who will listen. I was quickly reminded that "To whom much is given, much is required" I needed to focus more on the bigger picture. When I exercise that is usually my time with God. That is my time to regroup, recharge and refocus when the daily happenings of life tend to drain me. I can hear HIM more clearly during this time. I reflected on last week and how I was SO excited about the kids leaving for the weekend that I failed to ask God was it a good idea. I failed to invite HIM into my decision. I failed to exercise and I filled myself up with junk and was extremely lazy. On Saturday, my baby boy spent the night with his grandparents. He was so excited
and happy to spend time with them. As I've mentioned before in past posts, my children mean the world to me. My MIL text asking me to call him, I responded immediately with a phone call. As soon as she told him that I was on the phone he began to weep and tell me how much loved and missed me. We knew he was extremely tired from their jammed packed, fun filled weekend. While I was
comforting Dante, God began to speak to me. HE said Devita, he's crying because he(Dante) has no idea what it means to be away from the person who brings him so much joy and vice versa. He's crying because you didn't explain nor did you ask how he would feel about going tohis grandparents house. Devita, I need to be centered in ALL that you do. My grace is required not only for you, but for them as well. The reason why you feel heavy with burden and feel you need a break is because you continue to add more to your life without my approval. Yes, your moving in the right direction for my kingdom, but I need you to remember that I have to provide you with grace for EVERYTHING!
I have to remember this for every area of my life. I've taken on tasks, business opportunities
etc., and failed to ask for grace and mercy.
Less of me, more of HIM! I get it, and will keep this in the forefront moving forward.
#faithhopelove #believer #newadventureSAMEjourney
As I was walking
home, God returned my mind to todays daily inspiration. HE told me to tell the
story to further explain STEP ASIDE!
When I asked God to change my husband, HE told me that I needed to reach the root of the problem. The problem, was we were both trying to change who we were instead of asking HIM to create in each other the heart HE needed us to have for HIM, to extend toward each other.
See by doing that, we learned how to keep our
wants/desires separate from what HE desired for us. We had to STEP ASIDE so that
HE could do his work in us and through
Commit your way to the LORD; trust in him and he will do this:
I looked up the definition to see what it meant to Step Aside. To Step Aside means to
to move out of someone's way. Interesting enough. In my quiet
time(which is often) My heavenly father and I talked about being taken higher
and higher. Where I am now in my life, doesn't hold a candle to what's to
come. Don't get me wrong, it is definitely necessary for me to be where I
am now-so that I can truly flourish in my ministry. In order to be taken
higher, I have to remember that I have to step aside and allow God to do his
work. Often times, we think we are helping our situation by putting our
hands on things that is intended for us to let go of. For example- I had a
bad habit of asking God to change my husband(boyfriend) at the time. I would
ask, and the minute I began to see a change, I would put my hands on it
thinking if only I could speed up the process. Each and everytime I did
it, I caused more of a problem. One day, God came and spoke to
me-while I was walking through my house. He asked me to step aside.
He explained that HE couldn't move the way he wanted to because I was in the
way. The only thing he needed me to do to help him, was to
believe. What are you believing God for? Are you in his way? Has he asked you to step aside? Step Aside, allow God to take control of your life. Allow him to show you, who HE is. Allow him to work in your life like never before. TRUST HIM and Step Aside.
Heavenly Father, I'm stepping aside. I'm taking my hands off of everything. I ask that
you have your way Lord, empty me of me and fill me up with you. Show me
the way that I am to go in this season. I know you want whats best for
me.. And I do too. I'm stepping aside, I'm giving it all to you I am ready
to receive what you have for me. In Jesus Name.
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