Mother

It’s hard being a mother at times. We offend, defend, love, nurture, have our feelings hurt, we cook(or order take out) we clean(our hire a cleaning service) we work jobs that test our whole being, all so that we can support our families. 

We have children who are not so nice at times, or who push you to the edge where you yourself, if honest-need a break. All while dealing with issues of our own. It seems almost impossible to deal with it all at times.. But God!

Mother’s Day is so much more than just a nationally or internationally known holiday. Today is the day where you can tell/show your mother(step or someone who filled in) how much you love them. It isn’t a day to bash who isn’t there. If they gave birth to you....they still did their part. If they couldn’t or felt they couldn’t love you and sent their gift as a present to someone else....Thank God, they did you a favor.

If you’re a dad who is fulfilling both the role of mom/dad. You’re blessed and will continue to be a blessing. Refrain from bashing who left, accept it and show your child a different way to love and handle responsibilities. But do not spend time on bad mouthing the one who chose to leave. Their purpose may have been to deliver what is supposed to stay.

We focus on the wrong things at times. Mother's Day is about showing the woman or man who go beyond themselves even when it’s HARD or too much at times......Just how much they mean to you!  Don’t blow it by calling out the flaws of the one who isn’t there.

To the mother estranged from her child(ren), stop beating yourself up.  Find a way to develop a relationship with your child(ren) now.  Even if, it's with your grandchildren.  You will not be able to place a time frame on reconciliation, however; changed behavior will be your answer.  Forgive your self, instead of waiting for your child(ren) to forgive you.  Work on you so that if/when reconciliation occurs-you're ready for it.  For the child(ren) who believe hate is the answer or harboring un-forgiveness in their hearts is the answer, think again.  Talking about the past will help, but understand that the answers of which you seek-may not make sense to you...Find peace in knowing that at least their trying.  Show grace on both sides.


Happy Mother’s Day to ALL who’ve stepped into this role that has its ups and downs!

#Godfirst #ToBeAMother #RewardingandTiresomeAtTimes